Parents with small babies often have times where they worry about their mental health. This makes sense as there can be lots of stressors, such as lifestyle changes, body changes and lack of sleep.
As a parent it is normal to feel stress, anxiety, low mood or depression. Taking care of a baby is physically and emotionally tiring. Feeling intensely distressed at times does not make you a bad parent.
As babies get older, distress can continue. Without support from friends and family this can impact your wellbeing.
Ask for help when you need it.
When to get help
Non-urgent advice: Talk to a GP or public health nurse if you:
- are crying often
- worry or feel stressed all the time
- find it hard to enjoy activities like you used to
- are thinking of harming yourself
Things you can do to improve your mental health
Do
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take time out for yourself - go for a walk, meet friends or have a nap or shower while someone else looks after your baby
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meet other parents - for example, at mother and baby groups
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accept offers of help from friends and family
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rest when your baby sleeps or whenever you can
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be kind to yourself and remember that you are doing the best you can
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keep active - exercise can have a positive impact on mental health
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use mindfulness and relaxation techniques - these can help you deal with stress
Interacting with your baby
There may be times where you find it hard to feel connected to your baby.
There are many reasons why this could happen, such as:
Interacting with your baby helps to build your relationship with them.
This may be a difficult time, but you are still very important to your baby. Your baby wants to be with you, even when you are feeling sad or anxious.
Many people have difficulties in early parenthood. If you find it hard to interact with your baby or develop a relationship with them, help is available.
Talk to someone you trust. This could be your GP or public health nurse. They are experienced at helping people to get the best support.
Parenting advice and getting support
When to get urgent help
Emergency action required: Contact your GP or go to your local hospital emergency department immediately if:
- you ever have very strong feelings about harming your child
This is a sign you need urgent help. This might be very distressing and difficult to talk about. But it will help to keep both of you safe.
More support
Find a free online learning tool for parents - togetherness.co.uk.
